Maria and I

Our Story

I clearly remember one of the first things I told her at the beginning of our story: "it won't be easy, indeed, it might also be very complicated ..." referring first of all to my private situation, separated for more than a year and with a son to whom I wanted to give all my attention and time. On top of that, I was also feeling a lack of confidence in starting a new serious relationship, especially with someone I knew, with someone I had had the opportunity to appreciate as a colleague and whom I didn’t want to hurt at all.

Her answer has been the one I have heard again lots of times in the last years, an answer always replied with the same determination and fierceness: "Never mind, we will face everything together and we will sort it out, I'm sure!”.

This is the way our history saw the light, slowly and without pushing it too hard. Trying, first of all, to better know each other, our personal lives, our past and our thoughts for the future.

You are probably wondering who among the two of us took the lead in starting our story. Well, for the joy and the pride of the women's world, she did it, the future bride took the lead.

She knew that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach and she did it that way. She invited me to a dinner to celebrate her promotion and career jump, leaving the offices where we had had the opportunity to better know each other and where we had built common cross trust as colleagues.

And, of course, she brought me in a restaurant serving Puglia food, her origin land she sometimes talked to me about during a work break or a pause.

This has been our first time out together, an evening in which we talked about our past experiences, we laughed and we listened to each other. At the end of the evening we promised to repeat it soon and we both went back to our respective homes with the same thought and the same doubt in our minds: “Nice evening, could it be that…”.

The second evening together was the following week. We went to see a movie in a multiplex cinema in Milan and then we had a quick dinner in a restaurant in the Navigli area. The second evening confirmed all the sensations we had had the week before. I realized it while we were walking back to the car after the restaurant and, while we were joking on the plate of a parked car, I turned towards her, I saw her laughing with the dimples in her cheeks and with bright shining eyes and I said to myself “my dear Claudio, you’re done".
This is what happened to me and the same for her. After that evening we started our relationship and started considering ourselves a couple.

It took us a bit of time before opening ourselves to the world, the time necessary to know us better and to ensure we were really able to overcome and solve the difficulties we could face during our torturous future.

As soon as we felt confident and strong enough we opened ourselves to the world, to our friends, to our sisters, to my little big son Simone, to our parents and relatives.

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March 2016

Here is the news! The last chapter of the story is arrived! I’m not the main actor but two persons that, by now, are living in the same body, Two wonderful person, not like my travel buddy named Melanoma methastasis which stay in my brain, one bigger and the other one little little who will stay for other 5 months inside the big and wonderful person named Maria until the day he/she will not decide to get out and see the world around. We are in a grateful waiting and Maria is amazing with her big wond full of a wonderful surprise. A real and big thanks to the angels of the Istituto Nazionale Tumori di Milano who 3 years ago, when everything seems to be finishes , told me that if one day I would have like to be again father I had to went through cryopreservation. That day their suggestion seems to me like a mad idea more than a dream but I followed their suggestion, and today the dream is going to be real! Never stop dreaming!